What My Job Search Taught Me About Networking

Discover the full potential of networking through a positive mindset

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I learned an invaluable lesson during my last job search. It has nothing to do with resumes, job applications, or interviews. And anyone can apply this lesson whether they have a job or not.

The lesson I learned is to always be networking.

You might be thinking, “I already know that, David.” Or “I don’t need any help with networking.” But if you give me a few minutes, I’ll explain.

I want to share my definition of networking and what I mean by always be networking. I’ll also show why part-time networking is problematic and what to do instead. At the very least, this post will give you a glimpse into how I network. But, if I’m being honest, I hope it’ll transform the way you think about networking.

What networking means to me

Networking is not:

• Sending someone a LinkedIn connection request and never speaking with them

• Always asking for help and never offering it

• Leaving comments like “I agree”, “Great post”, or 👍

• Asking strangers for introductions and referrals

Networking is:

• Valuable conversations in DMs

• Live video chats

• Sharing your thoughts through meaningful comments

• Helping people without expecting anything in return

• Building professional relationships

So when I say always be networking, I mean never stop talking with people. Help out your connections and engage with their posts. Treat your network like real people, not just avatars on a screen.

It’s worth mentioning that networking isn’t only about getting on someone’s calendar or asking for a favor. You can do small things to grow and keep your network. This includes quick messages to check in on someone or adding a comment to a post that you enjoy.

It takes time to go from being an unknown stranger to a friendly connection. Like with any relationship, you have to build trust and safety first. And you might even have to give before you receive. But it’s worth it. Because one day your network will become your biggest asset for career and business opportunities.

The problem with part-time networking

I used to be a part-time networker. I’d only do it when it was convenient for me or I needed something. Eventually, I came to my senses and learned two lessons.

1. People don’t like it when you only take and never give.

2. To activate the power of networking, it can’t be a part-time job.

Imagine only building your professional network when you feel like it or have a job. Or even worse, not forming relationships because you think your job is stable and safe.

Now, think about all the connections and opportunities you missed while you weren’t growing your network. It’s a humbling thought.

I made networking a priority in my last job search. I was unemployed and had more free time to strike up conversations and schedule coffee chats. But I quickly realized how selfish that is, especially when I’d ask people for introductions and referrals.

That’s when it dawned on me. I can’t just network when it suits me. I should make an effort to meet new people whether I have a job or not. I should prioritize making time for others and offering my help because it's the right thing to do. And I shouldn’t look at networking as a quick fix but rather as a long-term investment.

Always be networking

To experience the full potential of networking, I believe you need the right mindset.

Be mindful and intentional with your actions and words. What you say and do are a manifestation of your beliefs and values. You have the power to show the world your authentic self. You’ll attract new people and experiences just by being yourself.

When you interact with another person online, think about quality over quantity. It’s not about how many posts or videos you create. Or the number of comments you write per day. It’s about the human emotions and feelings you convey. And the message you send with your content.

Here are some ways to change networking from a one-time event into a regular habit.

• Share your lessons, insights, and advice in your posts

• Add thoughtful and positive comments on posts

• Message people and ask them how they’re doing

• Offer to help others in need

• Schedule coffee chats with new followers

• Connect people who would benefit from knowing each other

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Networking isn’t just about your growth — it’s about helping others grow too. It means opening doors for all so that everybody can reach their maximum potential. I’m convinced you can achieve any goal and build the life you want when you prioritize human connections. You have a legion of fans out there. All you have to do is be yourself.